Dear Me,

You’ve been through so much. Some of it is beautiful beyond words. Some of it heartbreakingly painful. The hardest part wasn’t the pain itself—it was enduring it alone. The loneliness was the worst.

But here’s the good news: you’re not alone anymore. Sure, there will still be moments of loneliness, but those moments won’t define you. In fact, they’ll teach you incredible things about yourself.

You’re probably wondering how you can feel lonely yet never be alone. The answer lies in the people you choose. Somewhere along the way, you learn how to find your people. Not the ones who happen to be nearby or convenient, but the ones whose values, character, and alignment resonate with your soul. And here’s the kicker: some of them will live thousands of miles away, yet they’ll feel closer than anyone else ever has.

The Work You Did for Yourself

Against all odds, you’ve done something remarkable. You’ve rewritten the rules of connection and built a foundation for relationships that are authentic, fulfilling, and strong. You realized that the tools you were handed—the ones that were supposed to help you navigate relationships—were flawed, and no one was happy. So, you fixed it.

• You met people where they are. No more setting yourself up for disappointment with unmet expectations.

• You learned to speak up for yourself. Gone are the days of wondering why no one comes to you.

• You taught yourself to ask smart questions. Communication gaps? Not a problem.

• You embraced boundaries. Not only do you have them, but they’re respected.

• You claimed your voice. Living life by others’ expectations? That’s ancient history.

You’ve done all this work, and it’s paying off. Every step you’ve taken has brought you closer to the life you deserve—a life where you matter.

What You’ve Learned (and How It Helps Others)

Through all the challenges, you discovered something profound: the more you healed and grew, the more you wanted to help others do the same. That drive to support others has always been there. Remember how you couldn’t decide what you wanted to do with your life because there are so many ways to help people? That fire never goes out—it only grows.

Someday, you’ll stand in front of a room full of adults and teach them how to be better humans. The thrill of that moment will stay with you for years. It’s proof that all your hard work wasn’t just for you—it’s for everyone who crosses your path.

The Hard Truths and the Bright Future

You’ll face unresolved trauma and undiagnosed challenges that feel insurmountable at times. You’ll question your worth. You’ll feel like you’re failing. But I promise you: those feelings couldn’t be further from the truth.

The work you’re doing right now—yes, even in the messy, painful moments—is already changing lives. You might not see it yet, but one day you’ll hear stories from people who say, “You helped me in ways I can’t even explain.”

Here’s what I want you to hold onto:

• Let the hard things be hard. Facing them is what allows you to move past them.

• Be your own teacher first. Everything you learn will eventually help others.

• Cherish your people. They’ll be the ones who lift you when you’re scared and celebrate every victory with you.

You’re Going to Change the World

I know that sounds big and scary. But the truth is, you already are. Every conversation, every connection, every person who learns from you is proof that your impact is real.

When you wonder why you’re “too much” for some people, remember: they’re not your people. Wish them well (or don’t) and keep moving. The right ones—the ones who see your brilliance—are waiting.

Some Practical Advice for the Journey

• Save your money now; tattoos are way better than dollar-store trinkets.

• Don’t wait so long to try sushi—it’s amazing.

• It’s okay to like boys and girls. Nothing is wrong with you.

• That thing about having more than one soulmate? You’re right. You’ll find a bunch.

Most importantly: keep learning, keep growing, and keep loving.

The Truth About You

You are beautiful.

You are precious.

You are talented (though drawing never becomes your thing).

You are compassionate.

You are funny, smart, empathetic, and genuine.

You are Me.

And I am so, so proud of you.

Love,
You

Final Thoughts

This letter isn’t just for the younger me—it’s for anyone out there who feels lost, lonely, or unsure of their place in the world. Let it remind you that growth is possible, connection is powerful, and the work you’re doing matters.

Whether you’re at the start of your journey or deep in the process, know this: You are worth the love and connection you crave.

Keep going. Keep learning. The world is waiting for you.

#HappyHealthyHumaning