Simply put, boundaries are the fences we build around ourselves that say, “This is how I’m comfortable relating to you.” They stem from our wants, needs, and values, and they reflect our authentic selves.

Many people assume hierarchy only comes into play in worst-case scenarios or dramatic ultimatums. But the truth is, its influence extends into the day-to-day operations of your relationships.

It’s memorable, but not rigid. It’s not a step-by-step process—it’s a framework. A guide. A tool to help you evaluate and improve your relationships, your choices, and your life.

I didn’t learn these skills growing up, and it cost me dearly. I clung to a toxic friendship for 25 years because I didn’t know how to let go. It almost killed me.

Now, I see how important it is for kids to experience the full spectrum of relationships while being supported by trusted adults. Here’s what else I’ve learned:

At its core, it’s a movement. A disruption. A complete rewrite of how we, as individuals and as communities, show up for ourselves and each other. It’s about reshaping our lived experiences—not just for us but for future generations.

The separation was a great opportunity to reset expectations and share my own evolutions.

Why am I not worth the few minutes it would take to just glance around the house and say they’re proud of me?”

“When you spend a lifetime operating without an understanding of personal responsibility, trying to un-learn and re-learn such a pivotal skill as an adult can seem like a bitch of an undertaking.”

“You are worth all the love and connection you’re craving. Hang in there, little Me, it’s going to be there in ways you can’t yet imagine. Keep learning, keep growing, keep loving. You are going to change the world with those things.”